Monday, September 29, 2008
Charity: Water
Saturday, September 27, 2008
5 Weeks Home!!!!
R got his stiches out this morning & has been so brave through it all. He is going to have a pretty good scar. Thank goodness it's right under his chin! L & C are being great big brothers! C is struggling some with jealousy. He & R have always been two peas in a pod (especially when L is at school). Now OE has thrown some triangulation into the picture. He also tries very hard to take care of her & ends up tattling on her A LOT. She is much more independent than we expected, so the roles we had a prepped the boys for are a little skewed! She doesn't need the extra guidance & help from her big brothers as we had expected. He's adjusting...just needs a little extra TLC! OE seems to have already overcome the little attachement regressing that we experienced during my couch time! Tonight, as I was watching her play, I was totally struck by her resillency & strength. I am so thankful that God blessed her with these characteristics that are helping her overcome hard times! God is amazing!
Friday morning we had our first post-placement visit with the social worker. It was very challenging, but we survived. C & R were in a funk that morning, enough said! N was able to take the kids upstairs, so we could have some extra time to talk about some issues we are dealing with & that was a huge help!
Overall, our socialworker said OE is doing amazingly well! She was blown away by her English & the fact that she seems to have absolutely no developmental delays. You know, you read about & prepare for so many development delays in adopted children, & we are thrilled that we do not have any to work through. Even though OE turned 4 in May & could technically start Kindergarten next year, we had assumed that she would need an extra year to catch up. No way, jose! This girl is ready for kindergarten! So, this means we will have 3 kindergarteners! Oh, boy! Now, of course, things could change. We had already been thinking along those lines, but after our social worker spent some time with her, she confirmed that we probably had no choice but to send her on to school next year. She truly is one smart girl, just as Almaz said! We've had to adjust our thinking some, but now I've already called the school to get an ELL evaluation & I'm going to start "doing preschool" at home with her on Tuesdays & Thursdays while the boys are at school. We're just rolling with the punches!
We are also seeing a few behaviors that may be a result of some possible trauma she has experience, but we are going to watch things for a month or so. At that point, we have the name of a local therapist who is very experienced with helping children with attachment & trauma issues. These behaviors are nothing huge or scary...just some things we've noticed as we've been analyzing EVERYTHING---we know how important it is to catch things very early on & get her the help she may need.
As for attaching, we are making it--definately not "there", but we are chugging along. Our social worker encouraged us to continue "keeping our world small" for several more months. We have noticed some indescriminate affection with strangers, so we still must work hard to limit contact with people outside of our home. It really helps when I carry her in the sling. It seems to help her feel safe & remind her that I'm her mommy (but riding in the sling all the time isn't very realistic for an active little girl). So, if you are local & see us out. Please help us by not picking her up if she reaches for you & only let her hug you if she is in my arms. Everyone has been so good with this. We really thought we would be past this point by now, but we realize that this process is much slower with older children.
As for Mom & Dad, we are surviving. There are those moments when we get very bogged down in the difficulty of this part of the journey. We knew that adopting an older child would be hard, but we also knew that God called us to this path. We were right! This is extremely hard, but God is here with us! We are so thankful for this huge blessing in our life! We are thankful that God chose us to be OE's forever family! We are so in love with her!
Being silly with my knee brace once she got over being scared of it!
Our 1st "do"....not much to it & you may not even be able to see it, but there are two little teeny puffs on each side of her head (& one on the back of her head). This girl is so ready to for her hair to grow. She is really grieving her lack of hair! She looks in the mirror & pretends to brush out long hair & braid it...just pitiful! She was so proud of her little puffs...the hairbands with bows are just getting plain old...this girlie girl wants some styles!
Along with realizing how good her motor skills are, we realized she was ready for a big-girl bike! She loves it! She is so proud of herself & wants to be outside riding her bike ALL THE TIME! We are proud of her, too...isn't she just the cutest little bike rider..lovin all the pink!
She has been wanting to have a birthday so bad! Since her's isn't until May, we decided to celebrate the birthday's we've missed in her sweet life! We wanted to have a big party at the park & invite friends, but for the purpose of "keeping our world small" we celebrated at home. She had a blast decorating for "Rusie's Happy Birthday Princess Party" (in her words). She was so excited all day long! We went out for dinner to eat her favorite HAMBURGER (no dabo or bread) & FRENCH FRIES! She was all smiles ! What an amazing little girl God has given us!
Friday, September 26, 2008
Please Pray (if you aren't already)
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
Surviving & Seeing the Light
Monday, September 22, 2008
When it Rains it Pours
Tough Times
Saturday, September 20, 2008
4 Weeks Home Favorite Photos
OE loves to shop! My boys love to shop, as well, but they are into looking at toys, getting gumballs, etc. OE, on the otherhand, loves to shop for CLOTHES...especially JEANS! She thinks manicans are hilarious & always wants to wave at them, shake their hands, & talk to them. She especially loves the headless ones :-).
Monday was my Mom's 5 year anniversary as a Cancer Survivor. Every year, we surprise her with a visit at work & give her a pink rose for each year (so this year she got 5 pink roses...hard to believe it's been 5 years). We are so thankful for my mother! She has been a tremendous support to us!
OE had her first Wasabi (Japanese steakhouse) experience this week. Cayla (my flowergirl & dear friend) & I love to have girl time there, & we are so excited to have a new girl to share the fun with us (L had to join us, as well, b/c he was home from school with an ear infection...I think God just knew he needed some special time with his sis while the other two boys were at preschool). OE loved watching the chef do our food & then chowed on the rice & chicken!
This picture probably looks a little strange...a mom with 4 young kids should never have time to lounge on the couch...right!? Well, the couch as been my new best friend over the past few days b/c I injured my knee on Thursday. No exciting story...I was just knealing on the seat in the car & turning around to help OE when I heard a pop & had a little pain. Through out the day, it got more & more swollen & painful and by Thursday evening I could barely walk. My regular doc said it's a meniscus tear, & I go the Orthopedic on Monday. Woohoo! I don't know how we're going to manage this one! Please pray for a miracle! I know God knows all that we have on us right now, & I know that He has promised not to give us any more than we can handle. I'm trusting that He will give us the grace & strength to carry on through surgery &/or whatever recouperation time this requires! So much for feeling like life was getting back to normal!
Thursday, September 18, 2008
Prayers
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Fun Times in the Union Hotel
Here's the view from the stairwell landing between the floors. If you look closely, in the upper lefthand corner of the picture, you will see a burgondy brick building with tan trim...that's HH! On our first morning, we looked out the windows wondering which direction HH was in & we had no idea we could see it!
The Union Hotel has a workout room on the main floor near the front desk. It was a great place for the kids to play while we waited for meals or just to run off energy. Physical activity is great for dealing with grief & stress, so this was very therapeutic as well.
If you're hoping to pass your time by watching tv, think twice. The tv programming is pretty slim. One thing I was hoping to be able to do was watch BBC or Al Jezeera (I'm a news person okay...a big dork...I know!). However, we only had one channel in our room & that channel showed repeats of one of the Olympics races that the Ethiopians won. It was exciting to see the first couple of times, but it got very old. Another family in our group only had a travel channel, but another one had three channels...not sure how it works, but your choice of programming will depend on your room....Lol! Regardless, when we return for our homeland tour, I can't wait to stay in the Union again...being so close to HH is worth it!
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Flashback to Our Thursday in Ethiopia
Kind of random, but I just love how the kids always lined their shoes up all neatly in the schoolroom area.
The big container of Injera that the kids chowed on for lunch!
OE loving her "Mirinda" (the Ethiopian orange soda drink) at Kaldi's.
The view from the bridge we walked across on our way back to the hotel from Kaldi's (just minutes before the down pour came)!
The finished product of our group's shelf project.
The Hannah's Hope gate after we walked out of it for the last time....so sad!
Our travel buddies heading off in the van to the airport...more tears!
Fun times with our candles & lightsticks during the power outage!
Saturday, September 13, 2008
3 Weeks Home~Fav Photos of the Week
Photo Shoot
Thursday, September 11, 2008
Happy New Year!
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
Shopping Day in Ethiopia
Okay, in my "flashback to Ethiopia" world, it is Wednesday. Wednesday was a fun day for us. I made it over my emotional, kind-of homesick day on Tuesday & felt much better. OE stayed at HH to play while we shopped. We got lots of goodies & treats (I think I've already shared about my "favorite customer gift" I was given in one of the shops...I wanted to make sure I had no regrets about not having bought enough ;-) ). After shopping we went to buy our coffee & then on to Mukash for lunch (the art gallery place). We had a great time there & enjoyed the yummy food. The paintings there are done by students from the Addis Ababa Fine Arts Academy. I struck up a conversation with one of the artists by asking him what his inspirations were for his paintings (if you know me personally, you know this does not sound like something I would ask). He shared all about his work & I enjoyed myself (N didn't hang around for the conversation...I didn't give him any warning about my question & once I asked it, he had to walk away b/c he was about to crack up). When I went back to the table, he said I had morphed into some crazy art person...hey, anything can happen when you're trying to take in every thing you possibly can from your daughter's birthcountry. Our entire travel group was very delirious at this point & we laughed so hard that afternoon the muscles in my stomach hurt (I would share the story about N giving the woman on the street a bag of leftover rolls from Mukash, but no one gets it....at the time we thought it was hilarious...oh, well). Then, we went back to the hotel to drop off our purchases & headed back over to HH to get OE & receive our immigration paperwork & OE's passport. She was very glad to see us & had to give each & every one of her friends several kisses before we left for the hotel. Back at the hotel, we gave her the traditional dress we bought we her. She loved it, but kept looking for the chammas N had promised her. We were so disappointed that we never found them. We found a pair that worked for her but not the exact ones. Future travelers, please, please find my daughter a pair of these shoes. I will be your best friend forever. Last night, we even noticed that her cousin had them on at our meeting. This girl NEEDS a pair of these chamas (see picture above). We turned in early that night, she was exhausted...late, late night at the Traditional meal the night before. After she went to sleep, N & I packed & laughed about all the funny things that happened that day. We could hear the family in the room below us laughing, as well! After we settled into bed that night, I enjoyed the quiet & savored the sounds of Ethiopian nights...barking dogs, religious chanting, & mekinas (cars)...have I mentioned that I love Ethiopia!?!Loved watching them do the coffee at the place where we bought our bulk coffee!
Our lunch at Mukash...we also had the most amazing Focassia & COLD Cokes!
The painting we purchased...can't wait to get this baby framed...it's on my to-do-list...somewhere!
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Traditional Ethiopian Dinner
The restaraunt as we walked in...
The area where our group sat. We were crowded very close together around the basket in the center which, when the lid was lifted off, served as the plate we all shared.
Some of our evening's entertainment.
OE loving her Ethiopian food!
N loving him some Honey Wine!
Our little dancing girl with Danny (she has a tootsie roll on her front two teeth...that's why her teeth look kind of silly...she loves her chocolate!). Danny & Yohannes are amazing as well! Great guys with great hearts! They love the kiddos, & the kiddos love them!
Very special people & an evening full of memories we will never forget!
BTW, today R decided that for his & C's 10th birthday we are all going back to Ethiopia! Sounds great to me! We'll celebrate 5 years together with our first return trip to our daughter's birthcountry! The boys can't wait to go see what all the fuss is about!
We love Ethiopia!




